Webster’s unabridged dictionary defines denial as “an assertion that something said, believed, alleged, etc. is false.” At denial is defined as “the refusal to acknowledge the existence or severity of unpleasant external realities or internal thoughts and feelings.” For example: An alcoholic can deny she has a drinking problem when in reality her drinking has impacted both her marriage and work in negative ways.

When traumatic events occur in our lives, denial may initially take place. This initial denial helps protect us from the emotional shock of the event. But it is essential for one’s mental, physical and emotional well-being to move past denial and on to acceptance.

Physical or sexual abuse, addictions, death, natural disasters, chronic illness, adultery, pornography—denial in any of these areas will cripple you.

Make an honest examination of your life.
Seek the truth.
Get professional help if needed.

Prayer: Heavenly Father, your Word says “there is nothing hidden which will not be revealed, nor has anything been kept secret but that it should come to light” (Mark 4:22). Reveal the truth to me and give me the strength to accept it. “Oh, send out your light and your truth! Let them lead me” (Psalm 43:3).

For further reading on how to help those who are addicted read “Understanding Addiction and How We Can Help” ( Debra L. Butterfield ©2010


  1. You mean it's not just a river in Egypt? Who Knew? Keep up the good workd Deb, some of us are reading

  2. da'Nile, lol. Glad you are enjoying the posts.