I once had someone pray that I would stop
going deaf.
In today's airbrushed, Photoshopped world,
flaws can be erased in just a few keystrokes. My hearing loss was something I
wanted to disappear. So when a person of great faith prayed for my healing,
tears welled in my eyes. I was overwhelmed at the possibility that I wouldn't
have to wear hearing aids to have a normal conversation, or that my children
could ask me a question one time and I would understand them.
Some may be skeptical of the
healing-prayer belief. I was. Doctors and medicine contribute to healing, but
people who pray?
In the spring of 2007, I attended a
worship service with a lifelong friend. She was concerned about my hearing
struggles, as I was. She caught the sounds I missed during our time together. The
jokes I didn't laugh at. The conversation I pretended to hear even when I
didn't have a clue. My young boy's comments from the back seat of the car while
we drove, his repeated use of the words "stupid mom."
"That's enough," my friend said
to him. "You don't talk to your mom that way."
"What did he say?" I was
oblivious, and it embarrassed me.
At the worship service, she walked with me
to the altar for prayer time. A pastor met us there.
"What can I pray for you?" he
said.
Somewhere, the Bible talks about the
proper way of praying for a person's healing. I didn't know the exact verse,
but the pastor did.
"'Is any one of you sick?'" he
read from James in the New Testament. "'The prayer offered in faith will
make the sick person well; the Lord will raise him up.'"
My flawed ears made me sick at my stomach.
How could I be a good mom without the ability to hear my kids' words clearly?
How many times had I been called "stupid mom" from behind my back?
How many times had I let my boy say that to my face without realizing it?
I allowed the pastor to pray for my ears
to be healed, for the ability to hear my children. Tears welled, then slid down
my cheeks. I didn't wipe them away.
When the prayer ended, the pastor motioned
for me to remove my hearing aids. He then asked me to repeat his words without
reading his lips. Yeah, right. How can a lipreading mom do that?
The pastor covered his mouth and spoke to
me. The words I heard were, "What state do you live in?"
After I answered him, he and my lifelong
friend exchanged hopeful gazes. I'd answered correctly.
A week later, I went to my audiologist for
a hearing test. I wanted documented proof that something had changed in my
hearing ability. After sitting in the listening booth and responding to beeps
and spoken words via headphones, I waited for the test results.
Something had changed with my ears. I
could hear the highest frequency sounds to which I had been deaf the week
before.
I had been healed. It was a miracle. I
wasn't deaf anymore. Really? WOW.
A year later, I sat in the same hearing
booth. Something had changed again with my ears. I wasn't sure if it was an ear
infection or hormonal changes during my third pregnancy or noise exposure, but
I couldn't hear the highest frequency sounds anymore. I thought my brain was
playing tricks on my ears. How could I be deaf to sound, healed, and then deaf
again?
Regardless, the test indicated what I
feared. The hearing gain I had made after being prayed for was gone. Just like
that.
I had other people pray for my ears. I
prayed for my ears. I pleaded with God, read, and reread verses about prayer in
the Bible. I dreamt about not having hearing loss and wrote about it in my
journal.
Each year, my hearing tests revealed more
hearing loss. Had I imagined someone had prayed for me and I had actually been
healed?
In discussing this experience with one of
my hard-of-hearing friends, she offered this perspective: "Healed or not,
you haven't changed. You are and will always be you."
Healed or flawed: which do I prefer?
Somedays, I want to be free of hearing loss, particularly when my kids scream
to get my attention because I can't hear them clearly. Sometimes I want to be
deaf when they yell!
I decided to take a daytime walk by myself
along a wooded nature trail. Pretty risky in this day and age to stroll solo.
It was one of those busy family weekends when all I craved was two hours of
solitude. So I turned to my husband and pleaded. "The best thing you can
give me right now is the gift of childcare. Would you take the kids for a bit?"
Normally when I'm in the great outdoors, I
prefer to take my hearing aids off. The sound of wind blowing through my
behind-the-ear hearing devices unnerves me. 'WHOOSH' is the most excruciating
white noise. I must've been in a hurry to become one with nature, or I didn't
want to walk alone without a way to hear well. Either way, I had both hearing
aids in when I pulled into the parking lot of a local nature center.
As soon as my flip-flops hit the trails
(not the best hiking footwear, but I was in a hurry for my solitude), I heard a
series of beeps in my right ear. Then silence. One of my hearing aid batteries
had died, which meant I could only hear out of my left ear. I walked with
caution since I now only heard half of what lurked in the trees, and my thin-soled
shoes struggled on gravel paths. Occasionally, my left ear caught the rustling
of tree leaves, whooshing wind, or other hikers chatting as they sped by in
their Nike best. It was enough environmental sound to put me at ease and not
worry about personal safety.
All was peaceful. I could breathe deeply,
reflect. Twenty minutes of the walk were spent not walking, but gazing into a
shallow creek. I gazed at a small fish swimming amid rocks and murky water. I
was tempted to dive in with the guppy, but then noticed wind-blown garbage
mixed with some of those rocks and started walking again.
On my way back to the parking lot, my ears
began hallucinating. I heard children laughing and squealing far away into the
trees. I stopped to listen, and the chatter ceased. My flip-flops took off
again, and the banter continued. I hadn't passed any walkers since before the
guppy creek, and I had a ways to go before hitting the parking lot where folks
surely congregated. The hooting and hee-hawing sounded like my kids, who were
at home with their daddy four miles away. Was my one working hearing aid that
powerful?
Standing in front of dense foliage, I
stood and observed anything living and moving. Flying objects, like tiny
airplanes, darted in and out of the tops of trees. They moved effortlessly and
blared their sirens with each descent. "HEE! HEE! HAW! HAW!"
The tiny flying things were painted deep
blue and velvety gray. No hallucination. Just beautiful bluejays and robins,
singing and soaring amid treetops.
For the first time since my hearing loss
diagnosis 10 years before, I could hear squawking and hooting, shrill whistling
and soft sopranos. The symphony of birds. At least in my left ear.
I've had the experience of being both
hearing and deaf. Some would favor the former life, but I prefer the path I am
currently on. Born hearing, now hard of hearing, mom of three healthy children.
I appreciate all that I can hear through
my hearing aids: birds singing, my little ones laughing, the wind whooshing.
Even without my hearing devices in my ears and with the reality that I am
slowly going deaf, I feel gratitude.
My ears don't control what my heart can
hear.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Shanna Groves is the
author of Lip Reader, a speaker, and
advocate for hearing loss awareness issues. Read more about her writing and
speaking at http://www.ShannaGroves.com.
Shanna blogs about being a hard of hearing mom to three young children at http://LipreadingMom.com
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