Healthy Anger

“Don’t sin by letting anger control you” (Psalm 4:4).

Anger is a natural human response, and this verse assures us that it’s okay to be angry. It also tells us there are healthy and unhealthy ways to handle our anger (don’t sin). Lashing out verbally or physically, seeking revenge and holding a grudge all fall into the unhealthy category. Simply put, these methods of anger management are really attempts at manipulating the person with whom you are angry. The other half of Psalm 4:4 gives us an answer on how to handle our anger—“Think about it overnight and remain silent.”

No, this isn’t saying stew about what you’re anger over. Instead rationally think through the situation, discern why you got angry, and determine how you can resolve the situation assertively. This process also allows you to act calmly at a later time, rather than reacting emotionally at the moment of anger and possibly saying something you might regret. For more information, http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx

Debra L. Butterfield © 2010